Why I don't want to have a kid (at all)

For someone who loves to read and write stories about filial love and domestic affections, I sure do hate the idea of marriage and having a kid of my own. One would wonder, "What's up with that dissonance?" but thankfully none of the people who insist I will change my mind later know about those stories, lest they'll use it against me.

That... sounds like I was waiting for an attack. Or that I don't trust the people around me... which is true on both account.

Anyway, back to the original point of this ~article~

• I'm not confident in my ability to nurture and care for others when I'm already having a hard time to keep myself healthy and functional.
• I know some people says "It will change after you give birth." but what if it doesn't? I'm not gonna risk ruining someone's life just because I happened to luck out of motherly instinct.
• Honestly, do people think children is some sort of trophy??? A must have object? Is that why old people insists their children must have children?
• Probably the reason why a lot of us ended up with anxiety and other disorders, because some of those old people think they own their children instead of owing their children

"Wait? Owing their children? Yarra! That doesn't make sense! Parents are the ones bringing their children into this world!"

And those children didn't ask to be born, didn't ask to be treated like a trophy. Parents tend to say stuff life "I took care of you as a kid and this is the thanks that I get?" when their child disagree with them. Even though taking care of your children is an obligation and not a goddamn excuse to manipulate your kids.

So, see, I don't want to have kids not because I hate them. Quite the opposite! I love them and I don't want to be responsible for destroying their childhood or ruining them as a person! I trust myself to take care of kids as much as I trust my dad to stop making "friendly jabs" that chip away my confidence!

I Support Selfies Because You Don't

I'm not gonna use other people's selfies for this,
so have a doodle instead

Let me preface this article by saying, I don't like taking selfies. Not because I think it's an arrogant or prideful thing to do--an obvious thing because of this article's title- it's simply because it's not my thing, and that's okay. What is not okay, is how people seem to demonize this generally harmless hobby just because they don't like the 'latest' trend.

There are many articles claiming that science has proven that selfies are "not attractive". The question I would like to ask is, what's the point of those scientific researches? What's the point of proving that research subjects tend to not like selfies beside to tear down other people's confidence and boosting the elitists' sense of self importance?

If those people were to focus on blackface-selfies or other type of racist carricatures in those articles, it would be more valuable because it IS a social issue. Selfie as a general isn't a sign of the degradation of moral, though. If you think about it, before cellphones and cameras exist, a lot of people who could afford a painter stood for hours just to get their portraits. Wouldn't those people be more self-absorbed than the selfie-lovers nowadays?


Let people have their fun!